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General => General => Topic started by: Jehuty on July 26, 2005, 03:45:32 pm
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I've chosen to ignore this for a while, but ever since her 9th birthday a week ago, it's gotten progressively worse. Just because she's little she thinks that she can get away with anything. No respect to anyone at all. So, I ask for advice from my fellow TPH members. What should I do? I've done everything my parents have told me to do, but none of it has had any effect. So yeah......... Oh and she bites by the way.
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Most of the things I suggest would involve me being the family member, and are hard to perform to anyone else other than me. I suggest dropping an X-box (causes 4.2 on the Richter scale) to wreck her room, thus giving a lesson in humility.
But seriously, I find that putting them in their place works on brats very well. I had one really annoying snob cousin, and through various means she isn't a brat anymore. When she started acting snobbish, I stood over her, looked her in the eye (from 2 feet above) and gave her a little spook. (works best if you're between her and the sun, so you get a good shadow effect going) Just show her that she isn't the boss of things. And when she bits, try wearing a long sleeve fleece shirt, so when she bites, make her bite the fleece, then rip the sleeve out of her mouth. Holy crap, I bit fleece once and ripped it out of my teeth. Less than good. Or, another way to make her stop biting, manuever her arm so that she bites herself instead. It works a little better on 5 year olds, but still effective on 9 year olds.
This would be a prime oppurtunity to send her away to the Snowcraft force, if it was real. THAT'D take out any brattiness. Let her freeze and fight for her life for a few years!
Hope I could help, Jehuty.
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Heh. Thanks Swift :)
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No problem. *2 fingered salute*
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My immediate response is either eat her or give her a good thrasing with the cane, old-school style, but I dubt you'd want to use that one, soooo....:P
Like Swiftman says, you need someway to put her in her place. Is she like this with your parents and other people too, or just you?
Also, she may be doing it for attention too - in which case, if she starts something, COMPLETELY ignore her. Don't even look at her, no matter what. It's can be tough, but she'll soon learn no one's interested when she's making an arse of herself and stop.
A smack round the ear neevr went amiss...okay, I'll stop. Now you see why I don't really intend to have kids, little bastards! :P
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Kids are okay, but mainly in small quantities. I have about 80 cousins, 40 of them between 3-10 years old. At family reunions it gets VERY hectic, and I'm usually the one that they try to climb on (being the tallest, my family likes a challange) So, naturally when they try to surmount my north slope, I wouldn't be surprised in the least to hear somewhere "FOR THE SWARM!"
So, naturally, I know how to deal with kids. Hell, I plan to have three of them myself. I can deal with them from infancy to teenagerdom, I got ways to deal with whatever comes up. I'm preparing myself. 3 kids can't be any worse than 40, can it?
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To put my sisters in their place, I literally do just that. I grab her by the sholders, then put her on a couch, I get up right in her face, clentch my teeth and say, "LISTEN YOU LITTLE BRAT! IF YOU WANT TO LIVE TO SEE TOMORROW, YOU WILL STOP RIGHT NOW!" And if that doesn't work, then I throw her onto her bed and tell her to go to sleep. Then, if that still doesn't work, I call my parents.
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Wow, sounds like you're quite in charge of them over there, Lazlo.
And little sisters aren't my specialty. I've only had one for a few months, and she's only 2 years younger than me.
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I'm the oldest, so I kinda have to be. I'm bigger smarter and faster than all of them, so I kinda scare 'em. Also, I know how my parents punish them, so I make sure to suggest that sort of thing just before my parents say it. That way everyone thinks it was my idea. I'm evil only when need be, though.
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*looks at Laz's avatar* Evil indeed.... Zeke is scary, sorta. *shot*
But I'm always viewed as the gentle tall kid. I look like I'm 12, but I'm really 6'4. So, the kids tend to flock around me.
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Kids don't like me. Well.... I still am a kid, but watch out or else I'll............... do something not nice.
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I love playing with the kids, I can't say I'd like a 40 kid dogpile, but my 2 little sisters are fun. Especially when we beat up on the 15 year-old "step" sister that none of us like.
Seriously, she's a bitch and we don't like her.
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I see. My sister is bigger than most 9 year olds and she's pretty strong. Her classmates are out to get me. I swear!
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Does your room have a lock?
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Nope.......... I have an accordian door....
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Bathroom? Seriously, that's all I can think of. I used to hide in the bathroom and play GameBoy games for hours when I had to hid from my sisters. Best lighting in the house, if ya asked me.
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I know. The bathroom is the best place to hide and play your videogames.
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I've gone Descenting on the can before. Great fun.
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Shut up Mr. I-have-a-laptop-with-DOS-on-it!
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man i play ALL my games on the John
i would sleep there but mine doesnt recline...yet
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It's really a great feature. I have a minifridge next to mine, too.
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yea im gonna get a plasma TV there some day. itll have horizontal tracks on the back too so i can slide it into the shower area
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Seems like a good idea.
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I'LL SAY!
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In a mad attempt to get back on topic...
With me around, brats don't stay brats for long. I'm not afraid to grab their head and throw them on the wall. Funny that my 11 year old sister is so un-bratty....
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Yeah, but you're weird. Slam them against something soft, it works just as well, and it leaves no bruises.
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I don't throw them on the wall too hard, just enough to show them who has the power. (me)
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I see.
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man i play ALL my games on the John
i would sleep there but mine doesnt recline...yet
::laughs hard:: Let me help you out with that, Herb. ::gestures towards the "Latrine" section of the shop:: Omniadaptive ergonomic cushions, automatic cleansing, shelves... and cupholders! Oh and of course it reclines.
Anyway, abusing Brats is only a temporary solution. It makes them mad at the world, and gives them all the excuse they need to blame someone else for their problems. Someone who only uses their physical abilities to get someone's attention won't prove much to the Brat besides that the fact that they aren't as strong, and one day they might like to get their revenge, or if you've scarred them badly enough they'll take it out on everyone else.
The best way to deal with them is the war of attrition, in my opinion. If your little brother is spoiled and expects you to cook for him, and is rude about it and takes it for granted, don't smack him, stop cooking for him. At first he'll eat little snacks, but he'll get oh so cranky, and then sick, and eventually he'll learn the only way to get out of this is to be responsible and kick for his damn self. Psychologically, you can enable, abuse, or reverse the situation so the Brat has no choice but to face their own shortcomings, and if done right they won't be able to blame you for it because it shall be made clear who has the issue.
Good luck!
Zaijian,
Tiger
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Indeed that is good advice, Tiger. But what if the parents refuse to do anything about it? If it's your second cousin (I have alot of them) then you can't stop cooking for them or anything, since you see them about once a year. And they're so stuck up you cna't give them a stern talking to, they just ignore it. Only one solution in that case.
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Well, Tiger, I personally only resort to physical abuse if nothing else works. And you can't just starve your little sister. That'll get you in more trouble when your parents come home. And besides, unless you're a selfish uncaring shell of an individual, you'll feel terrible when they start whimpering with the hunger.
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In response to Swiftman, you're quite right, it's just a problem that should never have come to be in the first place had such prudent advises been taken sooner.
::chuckles:: In response to Swiftman and Lazlo, the "starving" example was just that, an example. They won't starve, anyway. Most animals become unbelievably desparate when faced with extreme hunger, but the child would cave long before then anyway. Parental lethargy was something my advice included getting rid of, so it's a bit redundant to bring it up as my advice is only useful if you start before/as the problem starts. o.O The key is not to become a "habitual enabler" if it's already in motion.
If the problem is truly out of your hands though, all you have to do is send them and the rest of the plague-minded masses on the "First Ever Manned Expedition to the Sun!" Works every time. ::sunglasses flash:: Oh my did I just say that?
Zaijian,
Tiger
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Yes, Tiger, yes you did. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who doesn't erase the horrible things they say ;)
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I AM the bratty kid sister. So here, I'll tell you what works for me.
*Clears throat*
Absolutely nothing. Live long and prosper. And eat lots of brownies. Thank you.
*Steps off soap box*
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Nice speech, Jody........ I don't like brownies............
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It's been scientifically proven that machetes take care of mostly anyone quite efficiently.
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Jehuty, we can't be friends any more if you don't like brownies... I'm sorry.
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Your being sarcastic........ right? I just don't eat brownies....... I don't eat alot of chocolately baked goods.
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That's just too bad...
Well, I guess we can be friends still, since your name still owns. But Jody on the other hand...
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heh heh....
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Yes, Jehuty's name OWNS. Better than Swiftman
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It is more fun to say...
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Quite so, but I find CALVAT the funenst to yell out in anger. Heh. If I become a teacher, every year I'm gonna nickname one student Calvat,a nd when he does stuff wrong I'll yell CALVAT! Heh. So fun...
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CALVAT!!!!! Heh heh, yeah. My name totally owns. :)
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That's just too bad...
Well, I guess we can be friends still, since your name still owns. But Jody on the other hand...
HA!! I laugh in your general direction. Your pathetic attempts to act like you hate me when we all know you want me amuses me. :wink:
And.. Calvat.. CALVAT.. yeah, it rocks. Trigger/Drifter's better though.. >.> <.<
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Jody, I want no one right now, however, I've no rivalship with anyone else. So I have to send insults towards you.
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My little sister manages to get me in trouble too. She's a sneaky one, ya know.